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If you are a single mother, your motivation to work could be your children. If you are an employee who is just starting out on a new job, your motivation could be the fact that you are aiming for a promotion. A student could be motivated to ace an exam to get into a particular university.

When you ask the question about what makes a person ‘tick’, you are basically looking for the reasons or motivations behind one’s actions.

Without ‘motive’ or motivation that is, your actions and decisions in life would have no direction.

Some middle age people suffer from some sort of mid-life crisis, they often wonder about the reason behind what’s going on in their lives.

What’s happening is that they have lost sight of who they are or wondering who they are turning into. They are actually having an identity crisis, they think that age has somehow changed them.

If you have built a proper and positive motivation behind your actions, there is no need to look for hidden reasons because your goals in life are clearly outlined and all the reasons have been determined.

There are several factors that can be attributed to a person’s motivation. To have a clearer understanding of the reasons behind a persons’ motivation, let’s just take a look at the following two factors:

1. Intrinsic Rewards
Why do people work for a living? The most basic reason is to earn money to have the means to buy food, clothes, other necessities, and as well as pamper your self with some luxury items.

These are the forms of intrinsic rewards which can be the motivation behind a person who works hard at his or her position in a company.

If you are earning incentives at work, this could be your motivation to put in longer hours. If you are saving for a car or a house, this could be your motivation to work doubly hard.

All of these intrinsic rewards are natural – and a rather common motivation for many.

2. Personal Motivation
We all have our personal goals that we would like to achieve. Be it fighting for a cause that you strongly believe in, or getting the praise or reward that you feel you aptly deserve – these personal motivators can be the reason behind your actions.

If you put together the right amount of push towards a particular goal or direction in life and you combine it with positive thinking and proper motivation, you can definitely boost your self-esteem and self-worth.

By having a clear picture of what you want in life, you can easily use any either personal motivators or intrinsic rewards so that you can work doubly hard and be inspired enough to achieve your goals.

For more on Goals And Motivation, check out this post: Your Ultimate Life Direction Unfolded

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Success comes from making small changes consistently over time. –
Kaizen For Self Improvement
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A Success Lifestyle, Defining Success For Yourself

If you went out to buy a television set, and didn’t really know what the best one was, oh, you had a general idea, but no clear picture, what would you end up buying? You would most likely end up buying something based on what others believed a good TV set should be.

Might work for you then, might not. It might even be a great TV set, but the purchase might also not be very satisfying, because others don’t know you as well as you do, what you like, what you don’t like.

Sound like a lot of speculation and guessing? It is, and that’s exactly how most of us approach our success. We go out into our lives without a clear definition of what our success is, as defined by us, and then depend upon others to tell us what it should be, when truth is, they’re out there definitionless too, asking others what their success should look like as well! If that isn’t a schematic for no-satisfaction, I don’t know what is!

What’s the solution then? The solution to what? There you go again. Why is this a problem? Why is not having a clear definition of what your success should look like a problem? Why is running around asking, and being asked about success, by people all of which do not know, a problem?

Because to do this does not feel that good. It’s confusing. And most of all because you have an idea already, that if you’re successful, it should feel good. So the first definition of our success is that: it should feel good.

Now that’s a broad definition, but an excellent one, because we certainly can train ourselves to get in touch with our feelings, and in doing so, have a constantly functioning, highly accurate, internal meter that tells us instantly when we’re being successful.

A successful life feels good!

The real problem is, most of us are not in touch with how we actually feel. Drinking our brains out sometimes seems like a good idea, but in this case the mind is not connected to the body, and truth is, the body doesn’t like being poisoned all that much. You know, heaving, headaches, and health issues.

No moral judgments here at all, simply observation. Poison a body, and it will tell you through how it feels, that it doesn’t like it. No success there! And drinking is just a hugely obvious cause and effect reaction. There are a million more examples, some very subtle, of things we do that do not feel good, yet seem like a good idea.

Or if not a good idea, at the least, idea or not, we still do them, and they don’t feel all that good. These are all examples of how we are not connected in the triad of body, mind, and heart. How about when we get angry at another person, and then more critically, stay angry with them over time? Does that feel good? Yet we do it all the time along with a million other similar things.

We do stay angry, frustrated, and upset, all the time, and over time, get cancer over it, headaches, and on and on, with the physical symptoms of our disconnect between body, mind, and heart.

Heart, for us by the way. The heart to feel that what we’re doing doesn’t feel good to us, and isn’t all that good for us, after all, because we’re the only ones who can determine how we feel anyway, in any one moment.

And people live this disconnect all the time! And it’s not that getting angry, or having any other initial reaction is wrong, bad, or even preventable at times, but staying angry is certainly something we can minimize.

We can usually minimize our reactions, after they occur, by paying attention to how we feel, and then taking actions that would serve to modify the situation that upset us in the first place. And the first place we often have to look, is in our own judgment systems. In the judgments we have of others, and even more subtly, of ourselves.

Starting with our judgment that there’s something wrong with getting angry when we get angry in the first place!

Here’s a task you can take up that will show you just how much we judge ourselves. People who are in constant judgment of others, and then more importantly, themselves, don’t have very nice expressions of their faces.

They often look sad, pained, or unhappy. Just go out to the Mall and sit down in one of those comfy orange chairs, and simply look into the faces of those going by you, as they strive to ignore the “dangerous” people they pass, refusing to look into the eyes of strangers.

Don’t do this for too long though, just long enough to feel the disconnect people have with themselves, and with others. An illusionary disconnect, because we are all One.

All from the same Source, all from the same planet, and all from the same one race: human.

Whew! That’s a lot of thinking about what it means to be successful! Yet without clear thought, we will not reach a place of truly knowing what our definition of success is in a way so that we can clearly write down goals that the achievement of, will satisfy us.

Goals, by the way, that may be as simple as to “feel good starting right now.” Because while success can look a certain way, it’s way more important how you feel about it.

And that’s the point. To so define what success means to us, and us alone, that we can then clarify what means and methods we will have to take up in order to then be successful.

And it’s going to take the whole, complete, and entire triad of body, mind, and heart, to do this. Having done martial arts for over thirty-eight years for my body as I also practiced getting in tune with the heart/mind connection, it was hard not to realize the importance of connecting the whole triad.

In the online seminar I present to participants, this is a lot of what we do: get people into their bodies first.

I get them into their bodies first, because if they’re not there at home, they’re not going to be able to define what feels good to them, and if they can’t define what feels good to them, how are they going to really be successful?

If you have any method of quieting down your mind, not making it go away, because you’ll always need it, and it’ll always be there, but simply quieting it down, then the invitation is to use that method that resonates with you.

Meditate, stare at the clouds, sit quiet, breathe, do whatever you have to in order to relax into feeling the body that you have, and in turn, the heart place that drives that body. There a quite a few very effective processes in the seminar I do that allow participants to make this triad connection.

It isn’t always easy, because we’ve been so trained to look “out there” for that which we need, but truth is, it’s “in there.”

Our satisfaction is in you, and in me, and right now.

Without this connection, without being at this feeling place where you know what makes you feel good, people can make money, they can achieve status, whatever that is, they can raise entire families, have careers and accolades galore, and yet still feel like a failure because they have never connected the triad, and have never in advance realized just exactly what their own personal definition of success is, and how to truly achieve it.

And how can you ever achieve something that you have not defined?

And if you haven’t defined exactly what it is you’re going after, and yet go around living an entire life pursuing it, can you see what a recipe for dissatisfaction that is? Certainly, we all can.

Yet we all do it. Initially, at least, until we learn something different. What we learn then, is that to pursue clear goals that we define as those that we feel good about, and in turn, will make us feel good in the achievement of them, is what true success really is.

And when we do that, what happens? Our lives feel good along the way of the achievement of those goals, not only at the completion of them. And in fact, even in the incompleteness of them, when we are feeling good, our lives are successful! Because we truly don’t really “complete” anything, life goes on, and on, and on.

There’s always more. We are already whole, and complete, there is nothing to add to us, only all this junk to clear out that we’ve accumulated. Junk that is in the way of our feeling into our lives, and realizing just how worthy and powerful we truly are.

A lot of the work I do with people is designed exactly for this purpose, to clear out the energy we have tied up maintaining the junk, and instead, direct it over to the practice of sustaining our success.

From maintaining, to sustaining. Simple. And most of us?

What we cherish most of all, is feeling good! Regardless of what we love to do, regardless of what others think, and regardless of anything really. Now that’s real success! Our voice, our choice!

TB Wright is the coursework creator of The One Penny Millionaire!™ a thirty week online seminar designed for your success. http://www.onepennymillionaire.com

A short video on useful affirmation work can be seen here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhFZ1C6uC-4

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Jerry Green’s Top Ten Adversity Busters by Mike Walker

I’ve navigated plenty of speed bumps on life’s road. My father’s death led me to an entirely different career than my planned one. My business burned to the ground. Unscrupulous partners left me with a $15 million dollar debt. My doctor diagnosed me with a disease that a year earlier would have meant probable death.

Some people call it adversity. I call it life. I’m going to share with you my philosophy for dealing with the downs that will no doubt accompany the ups. Some will make you want to smack your forehead because they are so obvious. But as I mentioned earlier, the key to business is taking in more than you pay out, and scores of business fail every year because they forget simple things like that.

Finally, I’ve got to say that I’m skeptical of anyone who claims to have the magic solution to your life. These things have worked for me, but they might not work for you. It’s important for you to know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, and devise a success strategy that fits your personality.

Here is my top-ten list of adversity-busters:

Don’t panic. When something unexpected comes your way, shouting, “Oh my God, I’m ruined!” is not conducive to handling the situation. Remain calm and you’ll send a message to your brain that you might be able handle the situation after all.

Take the emotion out of it. To come up with a rational solution, you have to have a rational approach, and that’s hard to do while your blood is boiling.

Build and use your networks. Develop and maintain a diverse group of associates and friends. Take the initiative in keeping in touch. If you only contact someone when you need their help, they’ll cringe when your number comes up on their caller ID.

Be polite. The bank teller you cursed at might be the vice-president in charge of granting you a loan in a few years.

Get a plan down on paper. Review and list your assets and resources, then make a plan, Figure out what you need to do, and break it down into small steps if the big picture overwhelms you.

Pay attention. It’s been proven that what people call ESP is often just a finely tuned sense of what is going on around them. Once Carol Burnett woke up in the middle of the night and decided to move to the other side of the bed to sleep. Shortly after there was an earthquake and a very large, heavy big-screen TV fell from a shelf on to her bed, where she usually sleeps. In her sleep her subconscious sensed small tremors that led to big ones, and she paid attention.

It’s not unusual for me to make a serious business decision after only a few minutes. I get a certain feel about whatever it is I’m considering, and I go with it. I’m not saying don’t be careful, but be aware of the things your mind is trying to tell you. This works whether you’re dealing with adversity or on the lookout for new opportunities. If I hadn’t paid attention when I saw an ad for franchising a new, fledging rental car business, I would have missed out on Budget Rent-A-Car, which turned out to be even more lucrative than the car business.

Don’t waste time looking back. Every second you spend thinking “If only…” or “I should have…” is a second you could spend developing another opportunity. Maybe somebody told you to invest in Microsoft 15 years ago and you didn’t. So what? Dwelling on the past paralyzes you in the present.

Know thyself. Understand your strengths and weaknesses.

View your challenges as opportunities. Earlier in the book I talked about what my stepfather said when my business burned down. He told me it was the best thing that could have happened to me, because I could make a fresh start. That’s the attitude I took. He was right.

Ask for help. Be smart about it when you do. I asked Kansas City businessman Frank Morgan for a $15 million loan and he gave it to me. But first he made sure I knew my business. Give people a reason to help, and they usually will.

Good luck out there on the highway!

by Mike Walker

Jerry Green owns WHB810, America’s largest all-sports radio station. His new biography, “Autos to Airwaves, Mantle to the Mob,” is available at http://www.moonbookstore.com/ . Starting out in the car business, Jerry owned a Playboy Club, one of the original Budget Rent-a-Car franchises, and a series of banks before venturing into the world of media.

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Different Types of Ebook Readers Compared To The Kindle

The Kindle is hands down the simplest ebook reader to get started with. Holding many hundreds of ebooks so that you can pick it up and learn something new or get interested in your favorite biography, The Kindle from Amazon is still King.

With the advent of portable ebook people now can enjoy the luxury of reading ebooks books on handheld ebook reader devices which are much lighter and compact than laptops and desktops.

It wasn’t at all easy on the eyes to read from digitally looking screen, but with the invention of e-ink it’s possible to display user friendly text on the screen. The ebook reader are loaded with e-ink and its now possible for us to read electronic text which is very much similar to a printed page.

These ebook devices are easily available and you can purchase it online these days without having to look for it in store to store. There different types of ebook readers manufactured by different companies and they come with unique set of advantages and features.

The first is the Amazon’s ebook reader known as Kindle which was launched in the year 2007 and it has been designed to make ebook reading simpler.

The Kindle comes with a six inch screen which is smaller than laptops and has keyboards for using ms word document and wikipedia. The text format can be adjusted and it supports file formats like HTML, TXT, MOBI, partially PDF.

It is also carries 3G capability to enable the use of wireless services for downloading ebooks from the internet and also receive mails.

Due to the huge success of the first version of Kindle, an updated version of the product called Kindled2 was launched which is even thinner and has a better gray scale display.

(Have a look at The Kindle And Accessories in The Best Ebook Reader Store from Amazon.)

Apart from the Amazon products, you will also come across ebook readers from Sony. Sony ebook device are affordable and comes with a five inch screen.

These pocket size devices have user friendly directional and menu buttons for navigation. Sony also introduced Reader Touch Editions which has a six inch display and has touch screen technology instead of a keyboard.

These devices also have a slot for memory card which can read Sony Memory Stick Pro DUO format or SDHC formats. This device supports a variet of file formats like PDF, TXT, and RTF file and also has a DOC converter. It even supports audio and video files like MP3 and AAC.

Several other companies also manufacture ebook readers. Booken produces the Cybook Opus which is cheaper and has a five inch display screen that supports basic text formats and runs on Linux.

Similarly BeBook, also runs on Linux and comes in five inch as well as six inch models.

Basically all the companies are putting out better and better products so that people can make the switch from reading traditional books to ebooks easier. Kindle is still my favorite for now.

To read more about Portable Ebook Readers And The Kindle, see The Best Ebook Reader Website.

Continuing Education Online Classes Are At Your Fingertips

College has almost become essential in today’s highly competitive world. While some folks despise the notion of heading back to school in order to acquire a decent degree, there’s really no escaping the need for a good education.

Ponder all of the employers out there seeking new employees. They really do have a lot of people to choose from. Now, why would they choose a mere high school graduate over an individual with a great degree? Well, since there’s no escaping the university life to some extent, at least you can now enjoy online classes.

Anyone currently attending a university or community college should seriously consider online classes, which are now available at practically any school. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to get your degree solely off the web. You can mix it up a bit.

Online classes can be a wonderful asset to your college curriculum. Maybe you want to take a couple classes at your local university and then take one more on the web to create a specific schedule that suits you better. You should keep in mind that the online course you take can be addressed completely from home or your dorm room.

All you need is a computer with Internet access. Early in the morning is a great time to choose online classes. This way you can simply roll out of bed and hop on your computer, but not have to get dressed and head off to an actual classroom.

There’s no doubt that online classes have made college life much more convenient for everyone. It’s crazy not to take advantage of this new-age way to learn.

Online classes are often ideal for single parents that already have a career that calls for ample attention and time. This way they cannot only keep up with their careers, but they can additionally attain a two-year or four-year degree at the same time.

This will naturally open more doors for future careers. You truly can never have too much education or experience. Employers find you much more desirable with both.

Take a moment now to think about a few online classes that would benefit you and can easily be added to your current schedule. A college degree is always worth your time and effort!